We do this trip from at least once a year out of Debbs inlet, many stories to tell ranging from great to miserable(crusising related) but they were all worth it(for the stories). With calm seas we have made the run in just under 4 hours, but the worst was 9. Take them as they come, bail out point is Manesquan inlet, from there you can run the intercoastal down to Trump just adds about 1.5 hours tot he trip. From FI inlet you can run better (straight line) but you will be out there in the wide open, with your 41' not a problem but I would not take that route in anything less than a 35+. Crossing the shipping lanes is like playing frogger if you hit them in the moring during the week.
My route is simple, ER bouy across through Abrose to the FG then south to manesquan, barnegate, little egg then Absecon. Absecon is very clean inlet to navigate - Barnegate and Little Egg is not advisable unless conditions are prime and Manesquan can be tricky but is well marked.
I would not reccomend Kammerans for over night stays, good for gas before you head back though -Boat US discount. Trump, although pricey, is unmatched for the area. Clean, great location and full use of the hotel facilities makes it a very enjoyable stay for us. Your slip number is the equvilant to you your room number- room service and business services right to your transom door. Oh, don't forget the weekly Miss Deckadence(spel?) contest and nightly live entertainment on the deck.
We have always made the trip solo in the past but would welcome company for the trip, so count me in for a Boater Ed trip.